“Success
is clarity of my intention…
and reaching that intention
while being true to myself
and with JOY.” India Arie
I’m a golfer. I’ve been playing golf for 20 years. I love golf (most of the time)!
During the 4th of July fun tournament at my golf club, I decided that I wanted to get the “closest to the pin” drive on Hole #2. The prize was $25, but money wasn’t my motivation. I selected my club, a 5-iron, to try to make this happen.
While waiting my turn to “tee off” I clearly stated my “intention” to Steve, my fellow teammate. I said, “I’m going to get closest to the pin today.” He said, “Oh, just like you were coming out of the sandtrap on #7 (it was a shotgun start…we started on different holes). I said, “Ummm, that was different.” He said, “Dee, this is a team event”, and we do what’s best for the team.” I looked at him, paused for a moment, and said “Screw that, I’m getting closest to the pin!” We both laughed.
I took my intention with me to the tee box. Took my set-up very seriously, focused on the target, took the club back and swung through the ball. It landed ON the green. I was thinking. Oh my God! I actually did it!!
We got to the green and took a measurement (12’ from the pin). I’m still not ready for the LPGA (Ladies Pro Golf Association). But, it was good enough to win that day.
As I look back at India Arie’s definition of success…I was clear with my intention, was true to myself with joy (I did laugh) and reached that intention. Success!
This was my example of how stating your intention sets you up for a successful result. You have to be very clear about what you want with everything in life. It helps if you write down your intentions and read them every day.
Relating it to dating…..It’s important to think about the type of person you want to spend time with. What qualities do you need in a partner to be happy? What activities bring you the most joy, make you feel the most relaxed and fulfilled? You should list all these things. You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what you want.
Sometimes its easier to put the things you don’t want (such as smoker, heavy drinker, doesn’t like to exercise, doesn’t travel) in one column first and by doing that it’s easier to figure out what you do want.
Whichever approach you take, you are cementing the type of person you want in your mind. You will have clarity and intention.
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