When you really love so many things about a person, it is very difficult to end the relationship. He brings so many things to the table. He is highly energetic, funny, such great company…but.
You constantly ask yourself…what is wrong with YOU! This person is so great in so many ways. What more do you need? And, he can make you laugh! Wow, that is something you highly value. The men before never made you laugh like this…but.
You love the way he can dissect a subject. He has such an interesting twist on life and relationships…but.
For some reason you cannot bring yourself to envision the distant future with him. Living in the present is something you can do. Friends with benefits sounds like a great option. It’s not that you want someone else in your life. You are trying to live as happily as possible in the present.
But…here is what happens. You think you are on the same page. You are clearly not if the same “theme” keeps recurring. The theme of you not being able to make plans even a month or two in advance because you are unsure about the relationship. That wears on the other person and eventually destroys the relationship.
Bottom line is you both have to remain true to yourselves. It is not easy. You have different needs. And you will both feel hurt. The person who needs more from the relationship and the person who feels terrible about not being able to give that person what he/she needs.
Someone has to “pull the plug.” It’s really hard, but you both need to move forward with your lives. Hopefully, you will be able to have some form of a friendship in the future. Only time will reveal that possibility.
In the meantime, do not listen to any country-western songs or you’ll be “checking yourself into emergency.” (with the exception of Toby Keith’s “How Do You Like Me Now?” or Pink’s “So What”…I’m still a rockstar and I don’t need you tonight.)
And, keep moving. Any form of exercise will help relieve the stress and tension you may be feeling. Use this time to take care of all those unfinished tasks you have been meaning to get to.
I think I’m going to actually listen to my own advice for once.
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I recommend a vacation with girlfriends also, I don’t know, to??? Barcelona????? :):):):)