It was a cold October afternoon, and I was sitting at the bar in Stephanie’s on Newbury Street (a top Boston restaurant) waiting for my girlfriend to arrive. A pretty woman to my right and a couple to my left were deeply engaged in conversation. I had arrived from France just weeks before and was enjoying the atmosphere of the United States again; the laughter, the camaraderie, the openness.
There was a slightly inebriated blond speaking loudly to the man sitting to her right. The man subsequently got up and she turned my way and said, “Hello”, and asked me who I was and where I was from. She got to the point very quickly. She said “I’m probably too old for you.” To which I responded, “Not unless you’re over 70.” She said “No fuckin way!” I asked her how old she thought I was. She said much younger than she, and I wouldn’t be interested in anybody of her age, which turned out to be 48 years old.
It was obvious to me that the conversation was about the importance of age in a relationship. I told her that I was born in Cambridge, but I presently live in France. She responded, “I’m from Colorado, but am staying with my sister in Rhode Island.” And said, “You must be so-phis-ti-ca-ted!” I was speechless, thinking that she clearly was not.
She ordered another beer and I had to maneuver quickly to avoid getting her too full glass from spilling on me.
She told me that Rhode Island wasn’t that far from Boston (only 25 miles), that her sister didn’t approve of anything, but she could get rid of her. And, she was in really good shape. I was taken aback by her forwardness. I was feeling uncomfortable with the path this conversation was taking.
When I told her that my girlfriend was on her way, she replied “That’s too bad!” She got up and moved to where her sister was sitting.
My thought was…this is an attractive 48 year old woman who clearly did not have to behave this way. When had the morality of women changed? Do women now act like badly behaved men? She was clearly more forward than the women I dated.
I believe that a meaningful relationship is not going to be found this way. Be careful when you go out there women. Because, what you sell is what you get!
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