Ted said, “Are you a good kisser?” I said, “I’m not the one who can judge that.” He said, “Come on, you know.” So I thought for two seconds and said, “I think I’m a great kisser.” “Can I have a kiss?” he asked. I said, “Noooo.” He laughed and said that was really cool the way I said yes and then would not give him a kiss.
It was a wintry night and I was sitting in the lobby of the Four Seasons Hotel. I did not think it would be a classy look for such a lovely place. It was snowing outside and I was about to walk home. He asked me if I wanted to stay there. (evoking thoughts of the song, Baby It’s Cold Outside) Did I want him to get me my own room? A cab? A car? I declined all of his very generous offers…fully realizing that my personal well-being was all he was interested in.
He decided to walk me halfway down the street where he managed to get a kiss. We had ducked into a little alcove and when I took a step backward I was almost hit by the sidewalk snowplow.
I told him I would have brunch with him the following day.
End of story…he never called for brunch. I didn’t really expect him to. Age does bring wisdom. So, I texted him saying, “God, I am so hungry…I was really looking forward to that brunch!” He texted back saying he might be back in Boston the following week and that I was a good kisser!
Ted sent me a few texts…no call. He was clearly only interested in the “hook-up.” He was from California. Visitors from across the country are not particularly good dating material. Stick to a 60 mile radius maximum.
I attended a class on flirting at the Boston Center For Adult Education (my next blog). It was taught by Dr. Judith Swack. She is a very knowledgeable and fun woman who firmly believes in the “four-date rule” when it comes to sex. When I asked her why the number four, she said “Just because.” I felt like I was talking to my mother again. But, if you really think about it, four dates is probably a minimum that it takes to get to know enough about someone to decide if they are compatible with you. And, as great as sex can be, we all know if that is all there is to a relationship, it will not survive.
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