May 2013

Ted said, “Are you a good kisser?”  I said, “I’m not the one who can judge that.”  He said, “Come on, you know.”  So I thought for two seconds and said, “I think I’m a great kisser.”  “Can I have a kiss?” he asked.  I said, “Noooo.”  He laughed and said that was really cool the way I said yes and then would not give him a kiss.

It was a wintry night and I was sitting in the lobby of the Four Seasons Hotel.  I did not think it would be a classy look for such a lovely place.  It was snowing outside and I was about to walk home.  He asked me if I wanted to stay there. (evoking thoughts of the song, Baby It’s Cold Outside)   Did I want him to get me my own room? A cab? A car?  I declined all of his very generous offers…fully realizing that my personal well-being was all he was interested in.

He decided to walk me halfway down the street where he managed to get a kiss.  We had ducked into a little alcove and when I took a step backward I was almost hit by the sidewalk snowplow.

I told him I would have brunch with him the following day.

End of story…he never called for brunch.  I didn’t really expect him to.  Age does bring wisdom.  So, I texted him saying, “God, I am so hungry…I was really looking forward to that brunch!”  He texted back saying he might be back in Boston the following week and that I was a good kisser!

Ted sent me a few texts…no call.  He was clearly only interested in the “hook-up.”  He was from California.  Visitors from across the country are not particularly good dating material.  Stick to a 60 mile radius maximum.

I attended a class on flirting at the Boston Center For Adult Education (my next blog).  It was taught by Dr. Judith Swack.  She is a very knowledgeable and fun woman who firmly believes in the “four-date rule” when it comes to sex.  When I asked her why the number four, she said “Just because.”  I felt like I was talking to my mother again.  But, if you really think about it, four dates is probably a minimum that it takes to get to know enough about someone to decide if they are compatible with you.  And, as great as sex can be, we all know if that is all there is to a relationship, it will not survive.


May 28, 2013

  A lot of people give up before they’re about to make it. You never know when that next obstacle is going to be the last one. Chuck Norris  

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Let’s Talk About Bikini Waxes: Comic Relief?

May 23, 2013

I realize that my last blog was a little bit heavy so I thought a little comic relief was in order.  Not that bikini waxes are funny.  At least not when you’re the one on the table and your esthetician is Russian. (That was the scenario in Sex And The City).  I personally have never […]

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Ignoring Red Flags Is Costly

May 20, 2013

I met him at the Capitol Grille; tall, handsome, almost divorced and 14 years younger than me.  I refer to him as an “aholic”, as I learned in the four months we dated that he was addicted to more than alcohol.  He was also in a job transition…trying to start a new business.  I was […]

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A Man’s Tale: Bad Behavior Of Women At Bars

May 16, 2013

It was a cold October afternoon, and I was sitting at the bar in Stephanie’s on Newbury Street (a top Boston restaurant) waiting for my girlfriend to arrive.  A pretty woman to my right and a couple to my left were deeply engaged in conversation.  I had arrived from France just weeks before and was […]

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Fly Me To The Moon (or Marseille) Please!!

May 11, 2013

I was on my way to the first romantic vacation of my life (and to Paris).   How is that possible at this age?  Suffice it to say that the men in my past were intellectual men with low libidos. The man I was flying across the ocean for has both ample intellect and libido.  […]

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The Big Girl Talk: Condoms and Battery-Operated Devices

May 7, 2013

I’m always amazed when I hear about people, over 50, who do not think using a condom matters at this age because, of course, your partner would NEVER be having sex with another person while dating you.  Or, hasn’t had sex in a few years.  Of course you have NO idea how many women he […]

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How Do You Feel About Passion?

May 6, 2013

I didn’t have any specific plans for Friday night, and I got a text from my friend, Margaret, who was meeting another friend for drinks at an Italian restaurant in town.  I quickly responded “I’m there.” I was the last to arrive.  Everyone was either two glasses of wine or two espresso martinis ahead of […]

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Online Date – Do You Mind If I Take Off My Pantyhose?

May 3, 2013

Jarad had been having coffee dates with several women on  He met them in local Starbucks and, on occasion, for a quick drink at a nice restaurant.  But, Susan lived two states away and seemed interesting enough to meet halfway.  They shared a common bond in their passion for cycling.  She cycled 30-40 miles per […]

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